Wednesday, July 22, 2009
What's yr worldview?
Suicidal AGAIN.
He divorced his wife. His 2 sons and 2 daughters, all adults now, does not acknowledge him as their father. "My father has already passed away," they said. A typical response from children who hates their father. He apparently has a 12 years old daughter in Indonesia. He must have had extra marital affairs. However, he doesn't acknowledge this other women. He called her a "friend".
His natural parents are angry with him for divorcing his wife for another women. "I do not have the courage to contact them", he said. = No family support. He has no house to stay in. He stays in his workplace when he's on duty for the night. When he doesn't, he lodges at his friend's workplace. He told his friend about his suicidal tendencies, his friend told him to drown himself instead of jump. =No proper safety net from friends. Obviously, he has no money. =Financial difficulty. His one eye is blind, and his another eye has serious internal bleeding. = No health.
He has made a will to give his 12 years old daughter his CPF money. All planned, well planned. He wanted to jump at a specific place and time last week, but he does not have the courage. Today, he replied he does not know if he'll appear on the next appointment when he was asked and added that if he doesn't, it would mean tt he has committed suicide.
Qn: If you are one of the the grown-up children, will you give him the support he needed (financial and/or emotional) upon knowing his current situation, despite of his past misdeeds?
(Nope, I won't ask if you will jump if you were him :P)
For me, I guess I will, at least the minimal to keep him alive.
My col said no, but will refer him to social services. =.= tt's herself? haha. prob not lah.
He divorced his wife. His 2 sons and 2 daughters, all adults now, does not acknowledge him as their father. "My father has already passed away," they said. A typical response from children who hates their father. He apparently has a 12 years old daughter in Indonesia. He must have had extra marital affairs. However, he doesn't acknowledge this other women. He called her a "friend".
His natural parents are angry with him for divorcing his wife for another women. "I do not have the courage to contact them", he said. = No family support. He has no house to stay in. He stays in his workplace when he's on duty for the night. When he doesn't, he lodges at his friend's workplace. He told his friend about his suicidal tendencies, his friend told him to drown himself instead of jump. =No proper safety net from friends. Obviously, he has no money. =Financial difficulty. His one eye is blind, and his another eye has serious internal bleeding. = No health.
He has made a will to give his 12 years old daughter his CPF money. All planned, well planned. He wanted to jump at a specific place and time last week, but he does not have the courage. Today, he replied he does not know if he'll appear on the next appointment when he was asked and added that if he doesn't, it would mean tt he has committed suicide.
Qn: If you are one of the the grown-up children, will you give him the support he needed (financial and/or emotional) upon knowing his current situation, despite of his past misdeeds?
(Nope, I won't ask if you will jump if you were him :P)
For me, I guess I will, at least the minimal to keep him alive.
My col said no, but will refer him to social services. =.= tt's herself? haha. prob not lah.
Friday, July 10, 2009
Self-Care
*Disorganised thoughts* (Dun read if you are
Self-Care is an impt part of a helping profession.
I've been through many many modules and courses, and most of them will include this into part of the material.
But I guess, it's not easy to practice it Successfully. No wonder our lecturers will always want to cover this portion of the coursework even though it means to extend the lessons.
Well, I am totally Unprofessional. *Not referring to work. I'm professional at work one okkkkk... :P
I'm not sure if i'm wrong though... since it's really not a Job per se. Juz like wat i've recently told someone tt we can't treat it like a job. So, where does professionalism comes in here?
But at the same time, inability to practice self-care is detrimental to the well-being of those whom you are helping, thus = unprofessional.
Ah, nevermind what i'm saying. I'm dwelling on the NOT AT ALL IMPORTANT school of thoughts. Shall leave it to the scholars.
The main point is, I have been too emotionally entwined with their well-being.
When one of their live is worrying, it can keep me awake through the night. But thank God it helps when I pray to fall asleep. On the contrary, when they make improvements, I'm perked!
It is getting unhealthy for the past few days. I've got to rethink and re-position myself.
Not to worry, or perhaps Sad for You that I'm not gonna quit.... although keeping the RADAR ON 24/7 is super duper tiring... esp when hiding and lying have been a norm for the current gen. You know, Dusts under the NICE Classy Carpet. It's saddening, cos they have no courage to tell pple they've got Dusts under their carpet.
Furthermore, there are still too many outstanding issues to be addressed... I KNOW them, but I'm still waiting for the right timing, and also confidence to lift those Carpets Up.
Enough abt Carpets... haha
My tone is slowwww and draggyyyyyyy when I'm typing this.
I think I need rest. I mean Enough Sleep. Got to work tmr. Zzzzz....
Sleep well, God is in control. :)
Self-Care is an impt part of a helping profession.
I've been through many many modules and courses, and most of them will include this into part of the material.
But I guess, it's not easy to practice it Successfully. No wonder our lecturers will always want to cover this portion of the coursework even though it means to extend the lessons.
Well, I am totally Unprofessional. *Not referring to work. I'm professional at work one okkkkk... :P
I'm not sure if i'm wrong though... since it's really not a Job per se. Juz like wat i've recently told someone tt we can't treat it like a job. So, where does professionalism comes in here?
But at the same time, inability to practice self-care is detrimental to the well-being of those whom you are helping, thus = unprofessional.
Ah, nevermind what i'm saying. I'm dwelling on the NOT AT ALL IMPORTANT school of thoughts. Shall leave it to the scholars.
The main point is, I have been too emotionally entwined with their well-being.
When one of their live is worrying, it can keep me awake through the night. But thank God it helps when I pray to fall asleep. On the contrary, when they make improvements, I'm perked!
It is getting unhealthy for the past few days. I've got to rethink and re-position myself.
Not to worry, or perhaps Sad for You that I'm not gonna quit.... although keeping the RADAR ON 24/7 is super duper tiring... esp when hiding and lying have been a norm for the current gen. You know, Dusts under the NICE Classy Carpet. It's saddening, cos they have no courage to tell pple they've got Dusts under their carpet.
Furthermore, there are still too many outstanding issues to be addressed... I KNOW them, but I'm still waiting for the right timing, and also confidence to lift those Carpets Up.
Enough abt Carpets... haha
My tone is slowwww and draggyyyyyyy when I'm typing this.
I think I need rest. I mean Enough Sleep. Got to work tmr. Zzzzz....
Sleep well, God is in control. :)
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